Anonymous asked:

What is 50 shades of grey about? And what's so bad about it?

aconissa:

50 Shades of Grey was originally fanfiction based on the Twilight series, which was then published as a novel (along with 2 subsequent books). It sold over 100 million copies around the world and topped best-seller lists everywhere. It’s about to be adapted into a film, set to come out early next year.

It follows a college student named Ana Steele, who enters a relationship with a man named Christian Grey and is then introduced to a bastardised and abusive parody of BDSM culture.

While the book is paraded as erotica, the relationship between Ana and Christian is far from healthy. The core mantra of the BDSM community is “safe, sane and consensual”, and 50 Shades is anything but. None of the rules of BDSM practices (which are put in place to protect those involved) are actually upheld. Christian is controlling, manipulative, abusive, takes complete advantage of Ana, ignores safe-words, ignores consent, keeps her uneducated about the sexual practices they’re taking part in, and a multitude of other terrible things. Their relationship is completely sickening and unhealthy.

Basically, “the book is a glaring glamorisation of violence against women,” as Amy Bonomi so perfectly put it. 

It’s terrible enough that a book like this has been absorbed by people worldwide. Now, we have a film that is expected to be a huge box-office success, and will likely convince countless more young women that it’s okay not to have any autonomy in a relationship, that a man is allowed to control them entirely. It will also show many young men that women are theirs to play with and dominate, thus contributing to antiquated patriarchal values and rape culture.

Anonymous asked:

What's your opinion on missionary dating?

peterdwebb:

Don’t do it. 

It’s so much better to start dating a Christian. You can have unchristian friends, if you’re in a position where you’re the influencer. But a romantic relationship is an entirely different animal. It’s so easy to make small compromises and have your passion for God eroded. 

I’m not saying that you can’t bring them into the light, but do that before you start dating. For your own sake. And for the sake of your future children.

Date people that love Jesus. They are marriage material.

You don’t develop courage by being happy in your relationships every day. You develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity.

Epicurus (via craigtowens)